First of all, we send you all the love we can right now. It can be devastating to learn that your child is sick, and eating disorders like bulimia, binge eating disorder and anorexia carry with them a lot of confusion and misunderstanding. Please, take a deep breath, and know that you can get through this with love.
IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT
Your guilt, shame or blame around the eating disorder will not help your child heal. Leave it behind, and focus on the future, not the past.
IT’S GOING TO TAKE TIME
Eating disorder recovery is possible, but it is not typically linear. Be patient with your child as she learns a new way to live.
YOU WILL NEED HELP
Parenting an ill child is a major undertaking. Don’t make the mistake of going it alone. Get help.
GIVE MORE LOVE
This is a time for extreme caregiving. Your child is sick. Show unconditional love and support so that she can heal.
Every member of the family will be impacted by the eating disorder in a different way. Talk openly and honestly about everyone’s feelings to minimize the negative impacts of the eating disorder.
Ginny Jones is the editor of More-Love.org. She writes about parenting, body image, disordered eating, and eating disorders. Ginny is also a Parent Coach who helps parents handle their kids’ food and body issues.