Love is not a feeling. Love is action.
Inherent love, love that lasts forever no matter what is a nice idea. But it is not enough for us or the people we love. Real love is active. It doesn’t rest, but it produces peace nonetheless. It requires intentional thought. Without action, love is empty.
Every single day, love is given and received.
Millions and millions of actions add up to love. Millions and millions of gifts of love are offered and accepted to build meaningful feelings of love. The deep, deep sense of being loved is built and maintained over time.
Love is not a moment or a person.
You can love a moment, and you can love a person in a moment, but love is what happens in the moment, and love is what a person does to make you feel loved. Love is caring enough to show up even when it’s hard … being there in the hard times and still showing love.
Take action on your love every day.
Show everyone who you love that you love them. Connect with them. Let them know what it means to get love from you. Listen to them. Hear how they want you to love them.
Ask the people who love you to take action on how they love you.
Don’t accept that someone loves you just because they once showed you love. It is not enough. You deserve more. Ask them to keep showing your love. Ask them to show up. Tell them how they can help you feel loved.
We can ask for the love we need.
Ginny Jones is the editor of More-Love.org. She writes about parenting, body image, disordered eating, and eating disorders. Ginny is also a Parent Coach who helps parents handle their kids’ food and body issues.