How to listen to your child non-defensively

How to listen to your child non-defensively

Parents, it’s important to learn to listen to your child non-defensively. This means you take in what they are saying and accept their words without pushing back against them. This is difficult, as most of us feel very defensive about our parenting. When a child tells us we upset them, we want to fight back and protect our right to …

Bodily autonomy & the search for independence through eating disorders

Bodily autonomy & the search for independence through eating disorders

Some eating disorders can be linked to a pursuit of bodily autonomy. Whether their bodily autonomy is/was threatened by trauma or parents, these people struggle to find both independence and love. Their method of managing their distress is bodily modification and control. For example, many people who have an eating disorder also alter their body with tattoos, unusual clothing, hairstyles, …

Our daughter’s multi-state, multi-facility anorexia treatment process

Our daughter’s multi-state, multi-facility anorexia treatment process

By Ariel Selwyn In the Spring of 2018 my 13-year-old daughter wanted to “eat healthy.” There is nothing wrong with eating healthy, I thought. I am a certified health coach and am a huge advocate of eating healthy. My daughter began reading food labels on some things and I thought, I’ll keep an eye on that. This went on for …

Are you food shaming your child

Are you food shaming your child? You’ve got to stop!

Food shaming a child is harmful to their ongoing health. Most parents who food-shame do so with the stated goal of improving their child’s health. These parents wish to save their children from a lifetime of weight gain and weight shaming. They think that shaming a child about food will help them be stronger, healthier, and happier in the long …

3 Ways Clinical Hypnotherapy Can Help in Eating Disorder Recovery

Clinical hypnotherapy for eating disorder recovery

by Bonnie Killip, Master Clinical & Medical Hypnotherapist  Have you ever wondered if hypnotherapy can help with eating disorder recovery? If traditional eating disorder recovery is not progressing, it may be worthwhile considering hypnotherapy as a treatment option. As a Dietitian and clinical and medical hypnotherapist, often my consults start with addressing people’s questions, concerns, and often skepticism around what …

Science is full of weight and racial bias

Analyzing science-based health advice for weight and racial bias

There is significant weight and racial bias in science. This bias means that parents need to be careful consumers of scientific media and health recommendations. Otherwise, we perpetuate weight and racial biases in our homes and pass them along to our children. Most scientists are not intentionally fatphobic or racist. But science is dominated by white people. Only 13% of …

Racism and eating disorder diagnosis and treatment

Racism is a problem in the eating disorder community. The media, doctors, and therapists assume that eating disorders look like a thin white teen. Treatment centers, researchers, books, and articles about eating disorders are predominantly white-oriented. Black people get eating disorders at least as often as white people. But parents, doctors, therapists, and even eating disorder professionals often miss the …

Parents: get off the diet cycle and raise healthier kids

An interview with Judith Matz, LCSW Parents really, really want to raise healthy kids. Unfortunately, we’re told that the biggest obstacle facing our kids’ health is their body weight. But this approach is harming, not helping our kids grow up healthy. Parents who are worried about their kids’ weight are more likely to have kids who diet, and the No. …

Should I lock the pantry?

Ask Ginny: My daughter binge eats. Should I lock the pantry?

Dear Ginny, I just put a lock on the pantry because my daughter binge eats. I know that binge eating is so unhealthy for her, and it seems to be getting worse. She just eats and eats. If I buy a package of cookies, it’s gone by the next day. Same with almost anything sweet, crunchy, or carby. She mainly …

Body image and shelter in place: help for parents

Body image is suffering with shelter in place regulations. Our kids are isolated and lonely. And there’s nothing like a lack of control to make you feel bad about your body. Our society is based on body hate and weight stigma. We experience fat shaming and fatphobia everywhere we go: in schools, on social media, at home, with friends, with …

Helping a child recover from an eating disorder prepared me for parenting in a pandemic

by Oona Hanson Some of the most poignant essays about parenting during the coronavirus have come from families who have already experienced a quarantine or the sustained care of an immunocompromised loved one. I started thinking about how living through a child’s serious illness helped build my own family’s resilience and confidence as we prepare to weather this current storm.  …

How parents can help prevent eating disorders during coronavirus quarantine

We are all stuck inside, tensions are high, and fear is off the charts. Our kids already have the highest rates of anxiety and depression we have ever seen. And now it just got much, much worse. During this period, our kids are at higher risk of developing food and body issues, and even full-blown eating disorders.  Why? Because food …

Try this if your child is driving you crazy during coronavirus

Almost all parents say their children are driving them crazy during coronavirus and social distancing. We’re in closer contact with them, and anxieties are running high. It’s not easy parenting in these conditions. Spending more time with our kids during this massive quarantine event is hard. It’s even harder if our kids tend to experience higher levels of anxiety, depression, …

As coronavirus rises, so do eating disorders

As we face the coronavirus epidemic coupled with social distancing, we’re seeing increases in eating disorders and other disordered behaviors. This makes perfect sense, since eating disorders are a coping mechanism, and if we have ever need to cope with something, this is it! Our teens are missing out on critical milestones, our college kids are back home and miserable, …

Parents are kids’ default body image educators

Whether we like it or not, parents are our kids’ default body image educators. This means that even if we never intentionally address body image with our kids, they’re still learning from us. It’s a little overwhelming to think about, but it’s also empowering. We can make a huge impact on how our kids feel about their bodies, and we …