Parents in our culture all worry about one thing consistently: their kids' food and body. As surprising as it may seem, this worry, which is dramatically increasing every year, is largely unnecessary and often results in poor health - the exact opposite of what we actually want!
Raising a body-positive kid is a great idea for so many reasons, including lower risk of eating disorders and disordered eating. But perhaps the most important reason for raising a body-positive kid is that it means your child doesn't hate their body. What could possibly be wrong with that? Here are the five tips for … Continue reading How to raise a body-positive kid
We came in for a check-up for my 12-year-old daughter last week. Over the past 12 years, you have spent significant time during our appointments discussing my daughter's weight trajectory. I can remember you telling me several times that her height was at a higher percentage than her weight, which you said was "good." But … Continue reading A letter to the doctor who told me to “watch” my daughter’s weight
There is a troubling trend in the media to pursue a non-mom-bod, pre-baby body. When I Googled "mom bod," I was faced with horrible definitions filled with misogynistic body hate. The presentation is that a mom bod is the result of a woman who has "let herself go." But the truth is that a mom … Continue reading Why it’s time to throw away your pre-baby jeans and embrace your “mom bod”
"Are you pregnant?" asks the 11-year old boy, pointing at her stomach and immediately breaking into hilarious giggles, encouraging everyone around him to look and laugh as well. And the girl, stunned, looks down at her belly and wonders, perhaps for the first time "am I fat?" And she starts to think, perhaps for the … Continue reading The terrors of middle school body harassment, and how to help your child navigate body shaming
Even the most body-positive parent with a strong knowledge of Health at Every Size can feel overwhelmed when their sweet child calls herself fat. We can talk about positive body image all we want, but when negative body thoughts inevitably find their way into our daughter's head, we may feel frozen and ill-equipped to respond. … Continue reading A mom’s letter to her daughter who called herself fat
Diet culture is a system that demonizes and hates fat. Diet culture tells us that even though 95% of diets fail, we should still maintain an endless pursuit of weight loss. Diet culture tells us that we'll only be healthy if we're thin, even though we know that thin doesn't equal health. Diet culture overrides … Continue reading What parents and educators need to know about diet culture, by Dana Suchow
Dear Ginny, My daughter is on the heavier side. I do my best to help her love herself by telling her how much I love her and that she’s beautiful to me. The problem is other people. For example, every time we see my mother she mentions my daughter’s weight. Sometimes she does this right … Continue reading Ask Ginny: What can I do when Grandma fat shames my kid?
Eating disorders are much more complex than body image, but negative body image is a hallmark of an eating disorder. We live in a culture that is strongly weight-biased and fatphobic. Our cultural messages assert that a person is healthier, smarter, and more worthy if they live in a smaller body. Weight stigma is very harmful … Continue reading Quiz: are you body positive? Plus, how to be a body positive parent and when “body positive” is not actually body positive
Eating disorders are strongly associated with low self‐esteem and poor body image. [1, 2] Self-esteem and body image must be improved in order to heal fully from an eating disorder because we can't change a behavior until we change the predisposing factors that drive that behavior.  If we tell a child that she's beautiful … Continue reading Self-esteem, body image, and eating disorders – what parents can do to help