Low self-worth and eating disorders: what parents need to know

by Beth Mayer, LICSW There is a high correlation between eating disorders and low self-worth. Because of this, when I’m working with clients who have eating disorders, I’m watching carefully for self-worth, self-compassion, and perfectionism. The more my clients build the first three and limit perfectionism, the greater their chance of entering recovery from their eating disorders.  What is self-worth? …

Here's how parents can teach self-care to kids

Here’s how parents can teach self-care to kids

Parents who teach their kids self-care can make a huge impact on their lifetime health and wellness. Kids who have eating disorders, disordered eating, and body hate often struggle with poor self-care habits. Unless parents step up and teach these kids self-care, it’s very possible that they will struggle with mental health issues for life. What is self-care? Self-care is …

What to do about your child's anxiety about food and eating

What to do about your child’s anxiety about food and eating

Having anxiety about food and eating shows up in many eating disorders, especially anorexia and orthorexia. If your child has an eating disorder, it’s very likely they are struggling with a lot of anxiety around food and eating. It’s really frustrating to watch a child refuse to eat and have complete meltdowns over meals. This is advanced parenting, but you …

compassion eating disorder recovery

How compassion can help your child in eating disorder recovery

Are you looking for ways to help your child recover from an eating disorder? If so, learning compassion is a great way to support eating disorder recovery. Compassion for your child or loved one, and compassion for yourself will go a long way to helping everyone during the recovery process. 1. Giving compassion to your child in eating disorder recovery …

emotional repression eating disorders

Emotional repression, the gateway to eating disorders

Emotional repression can be considered the gateway to eating disorders. Parents who are interested in preventing and healing eating disorders can help their kids feel their feelings. For the first time in history, our kids are more actively stressed than we (their parents) are. Our kids are living with high levels of anxiety, fear. They worry about everything from their …

A recipe for soothing your child with love instead of food

When your child is upset, sad, anxious, depressed, or any other negative feeling, it’s perfectly natural to think about food as a way to make them feel better. Who hasn’t thought about offering ice cream, a favorite meal, or a visit to Starbucks as a cure for the blues? Most of us have used food as a form of soothing …

cognitive distortions and eating disorders

10 cognitive distortions that support eating disorders

People who have eating disorders often exhibit 10 common cognitive distortions that are well known in psychology. In fact, many therapists begin with an assessment of these 10 cognitive distortions: All-or-nothing thinking Overgeneralization Mental filter Disqualifying the positive Jumping to conclusions Magnification and minimization Emotional reasoning Should statements Labeling and mislabeling Personalization Cognitive distortions are a hallmark of anxiety, depression, …

Self-esteem, body image, and eating disorders – what parents can do to help

Eating disorders are strongly associated with low self‐esteem and poor body image. [1, 2] Self-esteem and body image must be improved in order to heal fully from an eating disorder because we can’t change a behavior until we change the predisposing factors that drive that behavior. [3] If we tell a child that she’s beautiful and doesn’t need to starve …

why is my child emotionally withdrawn?

Why is my child emotionally withdrawn from me?

Have you noticed that your child has become emotionally withdrawn? Are they spending less time with you, and not sharing their life with you? When a child is emotionally withdrawn, it is often a sign that their parents need to learn some new parenting skills. Emotional withdrawal in the parent-child relationship can be a red flag for eating disorders and other …