how to help your tween daughter when she calls herself fat

What to do when your tween daughter calls herself fat

Has your daughter called herself fat? What can you do when your tween daughter calls herself fat? Are you shocked because you didn’t expect her to think that about herself at such a young age? Don’t be surprised: studies show that at least 80% of 10-year-old girls are afraid of being fat. This is a startling indication of the level …

A letter to the doctor who told me to “watch” my daughter’s weight

We came in for a check-up for my 12-year-old daughter last week. Over the past 12 years, you have spent significant time during our appointments discussing my daughter’s weight trajectory. I can remember you telling me several times that her height was at a higher percentage than her weight, which you said was “good.” But this time, her weight had …

woman looks at herself in the mirror and worries she has gained weight after an eating disorder

When your child gains weight in eating disorder recovery

It’s quite common for your child to gain weight in eating disorder recovery. Regardless of your child’s current or previous weight, recovery can result in weight gain. While your child learns to eat intuitively and feed their body what it needs, their body weight will very likely fluctuate. Weight gain in eating disorder recovery You should be prepared not only for …

Eating disorders can hide in plain sight when we limit diagnosis to weight and food behaviors

But she doesn’t look like she has an eating disorder! What people need to know about the emotional profile of eating disorders

The popular presentation of eating disorders is an emaciated white girl with haunted eyes, and while there are some people who have eating disorders who fit that profile, they are by far the minority. Only 14.5% of all eating disorders meet the clinical underweight criteria for Anorexia Nervosa, and even those who are clinically underweight may still appear healthy in …

Weight gain is often a natural and healthy part of eating disorder recovery. Parents must accept their child's weight gain to support recovery

Why is my child gaining weight in eating disorder recovery?

While not everyone gains weight during recovery, many of us do gain weight as a natural and healthy part of eating disorder recovery. It is very important that parents wholeheartedly accept their child’s recovered weight. To help you understand what may happen with your child’s weight during and after eating disorder recovery, we must take a deep dive into physiology. …

We are in an unfortunate time of diet history right now in which many diets are wrapped in a cloak of "health," "consciousness," and "spirituality." This cloak allows those of us who are obsessed with reducing our weight to feel safe in achieving weight loss because it's covered in self-love and care.

Diets in disguise: a diet dressed up as spirituality is still a diet

When we have an eating disorder – even if we are in recovery – we are susceptible to every diet message we receive. Diets are designed to do one essential thing: reduce our body weight, and that is what our eating disorders crave, too. We are in an unfortunate time of diet history right now in which many diets are …

Protecting our kids from diet culture and fatphobia as they recover from an eating disorder, and what to know about dieting during recovery, an interview with dietician Alex Raymond

Q: In our society, it’s impossible not to receive incorrect, fat-phobic diet and nutrition messages all day, every day. Our kids hear them at school, read them in magazines, social media, TV and on billboards, and talk about them with friends. What is your advice for parents who want to counter-balance all of the misinformation about diet, nutrition, and body …