More-Love.org was founded in 2016 by Ginny Jones. It is an online resource that empowers parents to raise kids who are free from body hate, disordered eating, and eating disorders. We educate parents about weight, food, and mental health and seek to reduce the fear and shame parents feel when their child has a problem with body hate, disordered eating, or an eating disorder.
We believe full recovery from an eating disorder is possible, and we support a Health at Every Size approach to parenting.
When a tree gets sick, we don’t blame the tree. Instead, we look at the ecosystem and figure out what we need to do to help the tree get healthy and strong. When our children suffer, starve themselves, and hate their bodies, we must look to the ecosystem to find clues that will help them heal. Families are a critical part of our kids’ ecosystem so the changes we make in our homes can make a huge impact on our child’s recovery from an eating disorder.
What does it mean to live in a disordered eating ecosystem?
We live in a society in which our bodies and our eating patterns are openly discussed and directly correlated with our value and worth. Doctors, teachers, coaches, and parents all worry about kids’ body weight. The “obesity epidemic” is heavily marketed by the $70 billion weight loss industry and is driving well-meaning concern for our kids’ weight.
The premise of this worry is that being leaner is healthier, however, the data to support this premise is weak. For example, while people who live in larger bodies may also have higher rates of certain diseases, we cannot prove that their body size caused the disease – and correlation does not equal causation. Furthermore, mortality data shows no statistically significant impact on death rates when comparing people living in larger bodies to people living in smaller bodies.
Next, for all the worry and talk about reducing body weight, there is no safe and effective “cure” for living in a larger body. In 95% of cases, people who intentionally lose weight regain all weight lost plus more. Worse, intentional weight loss results in a slower metabolism, high levels of stress hormones, and a markedly increased risk of eating disorders.
Our ecosystem is not resulting in healthier kids. Instead, our kids suffer from eating disorders including binge eating disorder, bulimia, and anorexia. These disorders are complex, but they share a deep desire to intentionally become physically smaller.
We believe that increasing rates of eating disorders can be reversed with a long, hard look at the disordered eating ecosystem in which we are raising our kids. We believe that parents have a tremendous opportunity to help our children avoid a lifetime of hating their beautiful bodies.
In the process of helping our children, we must learn to accept our own bodies, acknowledge our own biases, and actively and consciously reflect upon the ecosystem in which our children live.