More-Love.org is dedicated to educating and reducing overwhelm, stigma and shame for parents who have children who have eating disorders. The information we provide is not about treating the eating disorder itself, but rather a guide to empower parents to create an environment that will help their child recover from an eating disorder. We believe full recovery from an eating disorder is possible, and we support a Health at Every Size approach to eating disorder recovery.
When a tree gets sick, we don’t blame the tree. Instead, we look at the ecosystem and figure out what we need to do to help the tree get healthy and strong. When our children suffer, starve themselves, and hate themselves, we must look to the ecosystem to find clues that will help them heal. Families are a critical part of our kids’ ecosystem so the changes we make in our homes can make a huge impact on our child’s recovery from an eating disorder.
What does it mean to live in a disordered eating ecosystem?
We live in a society in which our bodies and our eating patterns are openly discussed and directly correlated with our value and worth. Doctors, teachers, coaches, and parents all worry about kids’ body weight. The “obesity epidemic” is heavily marketed by the $70 billion weight loss industry and is driving well-meaning concern for our kids’ weight.
The premise of this worry is that being leaner is healthier, however, the data to support this premise is weak. For example, while people who live in larger bodies may also have higher rates of certain diseases, we cannot prove that their body size caused the disease – and correlation does not equal causation. Furthermore, mortality data shows no statistically significant impact on death rates when comparing people living in larger bodies to people living in smaller bodies.
Next, for all the worry and talk about reducing body weight, there is no safe and effective “cure” for living in a larger body. In 95% of cases, people who intentionally lose weight regain all weight lost plus more. Worse, intentional weight loss results in a slower metabolism, high levels of stress hormones, and a markedly increased risk of eating disorders.
Our ecosystem is not resulting in healthier kids. Instead, our kids suffer from eating disorders including binge eating disorder, bulimia, and anorexia. These disorders are complex, but they share a deep desire to intentionally become physically smaller.
We believe that increasing rates of eating disorders can be reversed with a long, hard look at the disordered eating ecosystem in which we are raising our kids. We believe that parents have a tremendous opportunity to help our children avoid a lifetime of hating their beautiful bodies.
In the process of helping our children, we must learn to accept our own bodies, acknowledge our own biases, and actively and consciously reflect upon the ecosystem in which our children live.
Hi! I’m Ginny Jones, and I run this website. You may have heard that people who give up their eating disorders find that they can devote themselves to much more important things than obsessing over food and body size. Well, that’s what happened to me!
I had an eating disorder for 30 years, but I kicked it to the curb at 41 and found something else to do with my energy. I have a full-time job and a family, and More-Love.org is my passion project.
Most of us who have eating disorders are deeply passionate and resourceful people. That’s me! I’m very happy to bring this website to the world as a place where parents can find love and support while they love and support their children who have eating disorders.
Please don’t hesitate to contact me if there is anything you think I should cover here. I’ll be happy to talk to you!
Sending Love … Ginny