It is not unusual in our society to talk about food as if it has inherent "good" and "bad" qualities. For example, potato chips are considered "bad," and kale is considered "good." The natural extension of foods being labeled "good" and "bad" is that we then label the people who eat certain foods as "good" … Continue reading Food is not a moral issue
Do you find your child lacking in certain areas? Do you roll your eyes when you talk to others about your child? Do you say "what is wrong with you?" when your child does something wrong? If so, it is likely that you are providing your child with "parental criticism," an extremely dangerous behavioral habit … Continue reading You can complain, but you can’t criticize if you want your child to heal from an eating disorder
There are many options for treating an eating disorder like anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, and associated disorders. Which treatment plan you choose for your child depends mostly on your child's individual situation and your family situation. Not every child will need to attend a treatment center. If you determine that attending a treatment center … Continue reading What happens when you send your teenager to an outpatient treatment center for an eating disorder (Rosewood Centers for Eating Disorders, Santa Monica)
When our children develop eating disorders, we must understand that they are struggling with issues much deeper than food and their bodies. And yet the way they eat (or don't eat) may be a critical clue to help us understand how we can help. The very first way in which we care for our children … Continue reading Decoding the language of eating disorders through art and metaphor
Our children who have eating disorders need to separate their souls from their bodies. This is extremely difficult, because they are surrounded by loud messages stating that their bodies drive who they are as people. We must educate our children about the media agenda that objectifies our bodies and turns them into the single most … Continue reading We suffer when we believe we are bodies first and people second – watch this awesome TED Talk by Dr. Lindsay Kite
In a word: No. Whole30 and all diets are extremely unsafe for those of us who have/had an eating disorder. Sure, Whole30 positions itself not as a diet but a "lifestyle program," but make no doubt about it: Whole30 is a restrictive diet. Any program that restricts entire food groups in exchange for "goodness" or … Continue reading Is the Whole30 diet safe for people who have/had eating disorders?
Eating disorders are a complex condition that involves a complex interaction between the person and the environment. Some feel strongly that eating disorders are distinct from addictions, but we believe it is helpful to at least look at the similarities and consider their overlap. It is also known that many of us who have eating … Continue reading Are eating disorders a type of addiction?
If you are laboring tirelessly for the good of your family, and you feel as if nobody else is pulling their weight, you are probably right. What you sense is real and true. But it's not for the reason you think it is. We have all been there. We have all worked hard for the … Continue reading Does it feel like you’re the only one who is really trying to make things better for your family? You need to read this
When a child has an eating disorder, parents focus on healing her*. But an unfortunate side effect is that parents then feel they are constantly walking on eggshells. They become afraid of triggering eating disorder behaviors and being blamed for the eating disorder. This results in an unfortunate doom loop in which parents alternate between … Continue reading Stop the screaming! How to have difficult conversations with your child who has an eating disorder without yelling or stonewalling
Thanksgiving and other holidays can be very stressful for people who have eating disorders. Often when families get together, the first thing they talk about is dieting and body size. It's a national obsession, and is even more prevalent on a food-based holiday. If you have a child who has an eating disorder, it's important … Continue reading How to make Thanksgiving eating disorder friendly