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Our society is based on body hate and weight stigm

Our society is based on body hate and weight stigma. We experience fat shaming and fatphobia everywhere we go: in schools, on social media, at home, with friends, with the doctor … everywhere.

Feeling OK about our bodies is difficult in normal conditions. But coronavirus shelter in place has made body acceptance even more challenging for some. These are not normal conditions, and the opportunity for body hate is worse than ever.

If you are noticing that your child is feeling even worse about their body right now, you’re not alone. Our kids are hurting in so many ways, and many of them are displacing their fear, anger, and frustration onto their bodies.

We have an article with some ideas to help ... link in bio💕

We ran a survey in Stories and asked people for ex

We ran a survey in Stories and asked people for examples of how their parents food shamed them. The results were sad, but not surprising.

Parents who food shame their kids often think they are trying to improve health, but shame itself is damaging to health.

Shame can have a significant negative impact and is associated with eating disorders, substance abuse, and many behavioral addictions.
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If you are a parent and you’ve said some of these things - it will be OK! Just practice not doing it. We have recommendations in the full article - link in bio💕
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Thank you to everyone who contributed to our survey. Your (anonymous) words will hopefully help parents stop food shaming!

We have been told that we can't be trusted with fo

We have been told that we can't be trusted with food. That our kids can't be trusted with food. That, given a choice, we would all eat ourselves into oblivion if we don't control our eating.

But it's not true.

This is a dangerous approach to eating and health because it is full of shame.

Shame-based health practices are associated with eating disorders, disordered eating, body hate, anxiety, depression, and more.

Shame is far worse for our bodies than any food or number on the scale.

Parents can help kids grow up healthy by leaving shame out of food interactions.

These are just a few things we can think about when feeding our kids without shame. What would you add?💕

I know lots of Fourth of July celebrations are sca

I know lots of Fourth of July celebrations are scaled back or even canceled this year. But in case your family has an eating disorder in the family and is planning on gathering - even with a small group, please keep this in mind.

Food-based celebrations are usually a challenge for someone in recovery from an eating disorder.

While our disorders are not only about food, highly stimulating situations combined with food are often eating disorder triggers.

We have a full article about this if you want some help planning ahead. (Link in bio)💕

The biases around eating disorders are a serious p

The biases around eating disorders are a serious problem. As long as we only look for eating disorders in very thin white girls, we will continue to miss the vast majority of eating disorders, which are equally serious in people in larger bodies, male bodies, and nonwhite bodies. We’ve got to do better.

Doctors, nurses, teachers, counselors, therapists, coaches, and parents have all got to recognize that eating disorders are as diverse as our population.💕

A child who is in a larger body is going to face d

There are many paths to liberation from white supr

There are many paths to liberation from white supremacy and the patriarchy. These interlocked systems maintain power by claiming authority over our bodies and our lives.

One path to overthrowing white supremacy and the patriarchy is body liberation. We no longer have to believe or perpetuate cultural beauty standards, bogus BMI rankings, or the ridiculous idea that higher body weight is dangerous (fatphobia). Body hate doesn’t come from nowhere. It grows in a society that is systemically and chronically ill with white supremacy and patriarchy. This system has been ranking women’s bodies based on their color and shape for centuries. It is so powerful that many don’t notice it.

It’s been pitting us against each other. Judging us as worthy or unworthy based on how we look. And making us believe it’s true.

Our kids are suffering under the injustice of white supremacy and patriarchy. They are hating their own bodies and hurting themselves to try and prove themselves worthy of our messed up cultural “ideals.” We take these ideals for granted, but they can be overthrown.

It’s time for change. Let’s be the change.💕

When I checked with my teenage daughter about the

When I checked with my teenage daughter about the things listed here, she said “sure, but it’s not just one conversation, right?” Right. These things need to be repeated over and over to our kids.

Our culture tells them the opposite- that their value is based on how well they fit societal beauty ideals. But our society’s beauty ideals are racist and fatphobic.

So it’s up to us as parents to counterbalance societal messages with statements of acceptance and truth.

Be patient, and don’t be afraid to repeat yourself over and over, even in the face of eye rolls and “not again” statements.

Yes, again. Again and again, and again💕

There is significant weight and racial bias in sci

There is significant weight and racial bias in science. This bias means that parents need to be careful consumers of scientific media and health recommendations. Otherwise, we perpetuate weight and racial biases in our homes and pass them along to our children.

When consuming science media that links weight with health, we need to consider the following facts:
✖️We live in a heavily biased society.
✖️Our society favors thin, wealthy, white people.
✖️Scientists are people first (i.e. not immune to societal forces)
✖️We must assume that most science has weight and racial bias

It’s up to us to teach our kids to be critical consumers of all media, including scientific papers. Nobody will expose weight and racial bias in science for us.

Check out our article (link in bio) for a detailed deep dive into the recent American Cancer Society Guidelines for cancer prevention💕

There are so many ways to expose racism in our soc

There are so many ways to expose racism in our society, and one way is to talk about the racism in eating disorder diagnosis and treatment.

Despite significant evidence that Black people get eating disorders at least as often as white people, they are rarely screened, diagnosed, or treated appropriately.

The stats in these images are based on scientific research - please click the link in bio to view the sources.

Also, @nytimes published yet another article today centering the thin white narrative of eating disorders. Seriously. It’s time to center other voices!

We’ve got to do better💕

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If you are noticing that your child is struggling

If you are noticing that your child is struggling with their body right now, you’re not alone. Our kids are hurting in so many ways, and many of them are displacing their fear, anger, and frustration onto their bodies.

This list covers some of the most common symptoms of negative body image. Many of these symptoms may increase during coronavirus quarantine.

Often we don’t even notice negative body image in our kids because it’s so common. But negative body image can derail our vibrant and passionate kids from the life they should be living. Help your child stay healthy by monitoring and supporting their body image. We have lots of ideas at www.more-love.org💕

These statistics tell a story. Eating disorders ar

These statistics tell a story. Eating disorders are about more than weight, but a desire for low weight is often the impetus. Striving to be thin starts young, and it’s a hard habit to break in our diet culture. Eating disorders are also much more than anorexia. When statistics are based on anorexia it means we have a massive undercount of the true prevalence and impact of eating disorders. Parents can help kids avoid and heal from eating disorders, but to do this we must overcome our own weight biases and kick diet culture to the curb.💕

In the past few weeks we’ve seen two major weigh

In the past few weeks we’ve seen two major weight debates. One for a pop star, and one for a president.

Let’s collaborate so we can create a world in which our kids don’t hate their bodies and restrict food in an attempt to feel better.

Public discussions about other people’s weight - including famous people’s weight - is unhelpful. In fact, it provides a massive platform for fatphobia and weight shaming. This is not health-promoting. It is harmful.

Let’s teach our kids that nobody’s weight is up for debate💕

The fact is that our society is both fatphobic and

The fact is that our society is both fatphobic and foodphobic.

Combined, these phobias support eating disorders.

Change is hopefully coming, but it’s hard.

Meanwhile, those of us who are raising kids have an opportunity to make incremental change by changing our own beliefs and influencing our kids’ beliefs about food and bodies.

We don’t have to be afraid of food and fat. We can live in peace and harmony with our bodies.

Let’s be the change!💕

Parents really, really want to raise healthy kids.

Parents really, really want to raise healthy kids. Unfortunately, we’re told that the biggest obstacle facing our kids’ health is their body weight. But this approach is harming, not helping our kids grow up healthy.

Parents who are worried about their kids’ weight are more likely to have kids who diet, and the No. 1 outcome of dieting is weight cycling, which has serious consequences.

Parents who want to raise healthier kids should ignore diet culture and instead focus on developing a healthy body image and an intuitive relationship with food.

We spoke with Judith Matz, LCSW, co-author of Diet Survivor’s Handbook. She provided us with great ideas about how parents can get off the diet cycle and raise healthier kids.

Please check it out if you’re interested at More-Love.org💕

Loving kids may seem complicated, but if we tune i

Loving kids may seem complicated, but if we tune into them. If we listen and adjust. If we apologize and try again. If we keep showing up. If when the way we show up isn’t working, we try something different. This is how we love.

There is no perfection in parenting. There is only practice.

If you’re making mistakes. If your child isn’t talking to you. If you aren’t talking to your child. You’re not alone. Your child still needs you. Love can still win.

Don’t lose faith in love.

Love is a dance. We keep moving, and it’s best when we’re fluid, flexible, and responsive💕

Maybe you made an inappropriate comment about your

Maybe you made an inappropriate comment about your kid’s body.

Maybe you insisted that your child eat all their veggies before getting dessert.

Maybe you put your whole family on a sugar-free diet.

You’re not alone. It’s OK. Yes, we want our kids to accept their bodies and eat intuitively and find peace with their bodies and with food. But we’re going to make mistakes.

And one imperfect comment, one moment, one day, month, or year does not make us a bad parent.

We are imperfect by design. And we don’t need to be perfect at anything to raise healthy kids. Let’s just keep learning and trying and apologizing when we make mistakes, OK?💕
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P.S. I don’t know the origin of this quote - I’ve seen it in numerous places. But if you know to whom I should attribute it, please let me know!

I’ve seen a lot of posts this morning thanking m

I’ve seen a lot of posts this morning thanking moms for being selfless, and I call BS. Being selfless is not the path to good parenting. We must maintain our selves and reflect upon our selves constantly to be good parents. We can love kids fully and completely while maintaining our selves. In fact, I suggest that the only way to love someone fully and completely is to maintain your self in the relationship. So please, don’t be selfless today or any day. Our selves are important in the parenting journey!❤️❤️
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Posted @withregram • @teedoodler Happy 🌎🌏🌍 Earth day!! This is one of my favorite doodles because it’s from one of my favorite books, The Giving Tree. However, when I reread the book it makes me question how the tree gave everything she had. What if she set boundaries?? What if she shared what she had without letting herself be cut down? I’m sharing with the added note that this is Shel Silverstein’s work reimagined by me because I want to give him credit, while also acknowledging that I adjusted the wording. My doodle is pretty close to what he did and I’m proud of it 🤗

Those of us who promote a non-diet approach are of

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