Do you worry about your kids' weight? Are you worried your child is overweight or fat? Don't worry - there are other things you should worry about instead!

5 things parents can worry about instead of their kids’ weight

So many parents feel theyΒ can and must strive to control their kids' bodies. This impulse comes from the best place. From everything we have been told, our kids will live longer, healthier lives if we teach them to keep their body weight low. But here's the thing: controlling our bodies is actually harder than we … Continue reading 5 things parents can worry about instead of their kids’ weight

Families can help their child recover fully from an eating disorder

4 Rules for Families When You Have a Child Who Has an Eating Disorder

Eating disorders are often presented as persistent and intractable diseases that someone may live with forever. But that's not true. Most eating disorders are 100% treatable, and when an entire family adjusts its behavior, the eating disorder can leave completely and without too much drama. This takes time, attention and focus, which is a small … Continue reading 4 Rules for Families When You Have a Child Who Has an Eating Disorder

Family therapy is an excellent way to recognize and address deep family dynamics, especially when a child has an eating disorder

Have an eating disorder in the family? Then this is the one gift that everyone deserves

The holidays bring so much joy and laughter and wonderful gifts ... at least, that's what they are supposed to bring. But for many of us, eating disorders darken the holiday spirit, adding stress, concern and a sense of deep unease. If you have a child who has an eating disorder, then it's very possible … Continue reading Have an eating disorder in the family? Then this is the one gift that everyone deserves

Parental criticism is strongly correlated with numerous psychological disorders, including eating disorders. We must learn to stop criticizing our children

You can complain, but you can’t criticize if you want your child to heal from an eating disorder

Do you find your child lacking in certain areas? Do you roll your eyes when you talk to others about your child? Do you say "what is wrong with you?" when your child does something wrong? If so, it is likely that you are providing your child with "parental criticism," an extremely dangerous behavioral habit … Continue reading You can complain, but you can’t criticize if you want your child to heal from an eating disorder

woman wearing a cape and doing it all to help her family deal with an eating disorder

Does it feel like you’re the only one who is really trying to make things better for your family? You need to read this

If you are laboring tirelessly for the good of your family, and you feel as if nobody else is pulling their weight, you are probably right. What you sense is real and true. But it's not for the reason you think it is. We have all been there. We have all worked hard for the … Continue reading Does it feel like you’re the only one who is really trying to make things better for your family? You need to read this

mother feels like she has to do all the work and is yelling at her kids

Stop the screaming! How to have difficult conversations with your child who has an eating disorder without yelling or stonewalling

When a child has an eating disorder, parents focus on healing her*. But an unfortunate side effect is that parents then feel they are constantly walking on eggshells. They become afraid of triggering eating disorder behaviors and being blamed for the eating disorder. This results in an unfortunate doom loop in which parents alternate between … Continue reading Stop the screaming! How to have difficult conversations with your child who has an eating disorder without yelling or stonewalling

Are you accidentally gaslighting your child? What to know and how to stop

You may have heard the term "gaslighting" lately. Like narcissism, it's a psychological term that's quite popular in the media today, and it's relevant, since accidentally but chronically gaslighting our children can cause our children deep pain. When we learn to stop gaslighting, we can better support our child's recovery from an eating disorder. The … Continue reading Are you accidentally gaslighting your child? What to know and how to stop

What dads need to know about parenting a child who has an eating disorder, by Jeanette Alonso, LMHC

What should dads know about parenting? I believe the most important thing dads need to know is that they have a huge role in parenting.Β  Gone are the days when parenting was primarily left for the mothers to do. I’ve observed a shift where fathers are more hands-on and work collaboratively with their spouses when … Continue reading What dads need to know about parenting a child who has an eating disorder, by Jeanette Alonso, LMHC

Calm Down, Stop Crying, and other terrible things we say to our kids (and what to say instead)

Parents want our kids to be happy. It may be our No. 1 goal for them. Even if we have dreams of raising a neurosurgeon, we have those dreams because we believe that being a neurosurgeon will bring our child tremendous happiness. When we have a child who has an eating disorder, it is quite … Continue reading Calm Down, Stop Crying, and other terrible things we say to our kids (and what to say instead)