Getting to yes when you’re fighting with your child who has an eating disorder

Living with a child can sometimes feel like living with a terrorist. And we all know that you shouldn't negotiate with terrorists, right? And when your child has an eating disorder, the negotiations seem bizarre and infuriating. So what's a parent to do? Most of us can see when we're hitting a wall with our … Continue reading Getting to yes when you’re fighting with your child who has an eating disorder

Emotional withdrawal in the parent-child relationship can be a red flag for eating disorders and other dangerous behaviors

The most powerful emotional shield our children utilize when they are suffering is emotional withdrawal. They may withdraw slowly or abruptly, but the overall goal of the withdrawal is to protect themselves from perceived danger in their relationship with us, their parents. Children can withdraw behind many different barriers, including: Physical isolation (e.g. always in … Continue reading Emotional withdrawal in the parent-child relationship can be a red flag for eating disorders and other dangerous behaviors

Afraid, angry, and tired. Parents are at risk of traumatic stress when a child has an eating disorder

Eating disorders are terrifying for parents for many reasons. Not only are they physically and emotionally harmful for the child, but they also carry tremendous stigma and misunderstanding for parents. Parents who have children who have eating disorders may feel angry, stressed, tired, and obsessed with their child's recovery. These are signs of traumatic stress … Continue reading Afraid, angry, and tired. Parents are at risk of traumatic stress when a child has an eating disorder

My adult child hid her eating disorder from me for decades – here is what I would change about how I raised her

by Anonymous My sweet girl slipped right through my fingers. A lovely, well-adjusted child right up until puberty began at about 11 years old, she spent her adolescence and young adulthood battling an eating disorder that I didn't even know about. I missed the symptoms and cries for help, and I'm still struggling with my … Continue reading My adult child hid her eating disorder from me for decades – here is what I would change about how I raised her

3 sacred cows to dismantle when your child has an eating disorder

A sacred cow isΒ an idea, custom or institution believed to be above criticism. Sacred cows are firmly believed to be absolutely and factually correct, but they do not stand up to critical evaluation. Overcoming sacred cows requires endless practice. Even when firmly shown to be false, they often survive due to the unconscious beliefs that … Continue reading 3 sacred cows to dismantle when your child has an eating disorder