Afraid, angry, and tired. Parents are at risk of traumatic stress when a child has an eating disorder

Eating disorders are terrifying for parents for many reasons. Not only are they physically and emotionally harmful for the child, but they also carry tremendous stigma and misunderstanding for parents. Parents who have children who have eating disorders may feel angry, stressed, tired, and obsessed with their child's recovery. These are signs of traumatic stress … Continue reading Afraid, angry, and tired. Parents are at risk of traumatic stress when a child has an eating disorder

My adult child hid her eating disorder from me for decades – here is what I would change about how I raised her

by Anonymous My sweet girl slipped right through my fingers. A lovely, well-adjusted child right up until puberty began at about 11 years old, she spent her adolescence and young adulthood battling an eating disorder that I didn't even know about. I missed the symptoms and cries for help, and I'm still struggling with my … Continue reading My adult child hid her eating disorder from me for decades – here is what I would change about how I raised her

3 sacred cows to dismantle when your child has an eating disorder

A sacred cow isΒ an idea, custom or institution believed to be above criticism. Sacred cows are firmly believed to be absolutely and factually correct, but they do not stand up to critical evaluation. Overcoming sacred cows requires endless practice. Even when firmly shown to be false, they often survive due to the unconscious beliefs that … Continue reading 3 sacred cows to dismantle when your child has an eating disorder

How to handle yelling, crying and arguments during your child’s eating disorder recovery

Many parents who have children who have eating disorders are surprised to discover that their child's disorder is about emotions, not food. While a person who has an eating disorder has symptoms related to food, the underlying issue that needs to be addressed is their emotional wellbeing. This is why it's common during eating disorder … Continue reading How to handle yelling, crying and arguments during your child’s eating disorder recovery

Parenting myths you should ignore immediately to prevent eating disorders

As eating disorders and other disordered methods of processing emotions become more prevalent, we must look collectively at our cultural norms and rules that may be contributing to these disorders. Although no disorder is ever a parent's fault, and parents alone cannot prevent all eating disorders, we do have tremendous opportunity to prevent and heal … Continue reading Parenting myths you should ignore immediately to prevent eating disorders

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Is the problem with American children that parents are too soft?

The significant majority of people who have eating disorders experienced physical and emotional abuse as children. Most children who are abused receive the abuse from their parents, siblings, and other family members. Childhood abuse includes commonly accepted but still traumatic parenting tactics such as spanking, slapping, criticism and shaming. This is something we must discuss … Continue reading Is the problem with American children that parents are too soft?