How to handle yelling, crying and arguments during your child’s eating disorder recovery

Many parents who have children who have eating disorders are surprised to discover that their child's disorder is about emotions, not food. While a person who has an eating disorder has symptoms related to food, the underlying issue that needs to be addressed is their emotional wellbeing. This is why it's common during eating disorder … Continue reading How to handle yelling, crying and arguments during your child’s eating disorder recovery

Parenting myths you should ignore immediately to prevent eating disorders

As eating disorders and other disordered methods of processing emotions become more prevalent, we must look collectively at our cultural norms and rules that may be contributing to these disorders. Although no disorder is ever a parent's fault, and parents alone cannot prevent all eating disorders, we do have tremendous opportunity to prevent and heal … Continue reading Parenting myths you should ignore immediately to prevent eating disorders

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Is the problem with American children that parents are too soft?

The significant majority of people who have eating disorders experienced physical and emotional abuse as children. Most children who are abused receive the abuse from their parents, siblings, and other family members. Childhood abuse includes commonly accepted but still traumatic parenting tactics such as spanking, slapping, criticism and shaming. This is something we must discuss … Continue reading Is the problem with American children that parents are too soft?

Do you worry about your kids' weight? Are you worried your child is overweight or fat? Don't worry - there are other things you should worry about instead!

What to worry about instead of your kids’ body weight and the food they eat

There is a $60 billion diet industry driven to convince all of us that the biggest problem in our lives is our weight. But the science on that fact is inconclusive. Yes - that's surprising, but we must remember that $60 billion industries grow to that point based on extensive advertising and PR campaigns that … Continue reading What to worry about instead of your kids’ body weight and the food they eat

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Learning “soft power” skills to lead your family through the crisis of an eating disorder

We have learned from politics, business and yes, families, that command-and-control, carrot-and-stick, despotic regimes most often result in rebellion and war. The tighter a leader tries to hold power through force, the more likely the leader is to lose power entirely. The term "soft power" was coined in the late 1980s by Joseph S. Nye, … Continue reading Learning “soft power” skills to lead your family through the crisis of an eating disorder

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Loneliness: what parents should worry about instead of their kids’ weight

So many parents feel theyΒ can and must strive to control their kids' bodies. This impulse comes from the best place. From everything we have been told, our kids will live longer, healthier lives if we teach them to keep their body weight low. But here's the thing: controlling our bodies is actually harder than we … Continue reading Loneliness: what parents should worry about instead of their kids’ weight