Negotiating with your child who has an eating disorder

Negotiating with a child who has an eating disorder can feel like negotiating with a terrorist. And we all know that you shouldn’t negotiate with terrorists, right? When your child has an eating disorder, the negotiations often seem bizarre and infuriating. Most of the time, parents just want their child to eat. It just doesn’t seem like something that needs …

How to raise a child with better body image

By Alex Raymond, RD, LD, CEDRD Most parents hope their child will grow up with a positive sense of self and a positive body image. And most parents wish the best for their children and dread the day their children believe there is something “wrong” with their bodies. Or the day some kid at school makes fun of them for …

Opt out of school weight programs: don’t weigh my child at school

More and more schools are weighing kids, but you usually have the option to opt out of school weight programs. It’s an option worth considering regardless of your child’s individual weight status. School weigh-ins are upsetting and stressful for most kids. Parents should be asking hard questions about the practice of weighing kids at school. For example: Why should the …

A mom's story: An eating disorder? No, not my child!

A mom’s story: An eating disorder? No, not my child!

Following is an excerpt from the book By Their Side: A Resource for Caretakers and Loved Ones Facing an Eating Disorder. The book is filled with personal anecdotes and helpful advice for parents who are facing a child’s eating disorder diagnosis and recovery. An eating disorder? I didn’t even know what an eating disorder was! But what I did know …

Here's how parents can teach self-care to kids

Here’s how parents can teach self-care to kids

Parents who teach their kids self-care can make a huge impact on their lifetime health and wellness. Kids who have eating disorders, disordered eating, and body hate often struggle with poor self-care habits. Unless parents step up and teach these kids self-care, it’s very possible that they will struggle with mental health issues for life. What is self-care? Self-care is …

EEEWWW! Addressing the Gross Factor of Bulimia

Do you think that bulimia is gross? Bulimia often feels shamefully disgusting to the people who do it. It is possibly even more disgusting when the people who love them find out what they are doing. A lot of people think bulimia is the ickiest form of disordered eating because of the purge. It’s easy to see bulimia as a …

Why adult kids don’t come home for the holidays

Very few parents envision a future in which their adult kids don’t come home for the holidays. In fact, most of us picture a future in which we are surrounded by a loving, happy family of our kids and their kids, multiple generations joyously spending time together on special occasions. But the fact is that many adult children dread coming …

Real stories from parents who have kids who have ARFID

Real stories from parents who have kids who have ARFID

Parents who have kids with avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID) face challenges not just in feeding their kids and keeping them healthy, but also in accessing treatment. ARFID is an eating disorder. Its symptoms include strong food aversions and food avoidance. These symptoms exist without the desire to lose weight or change the body size or shape. ARFID is characterized …

Why do I need therapy if my child is the one with a problem?

Why do I need therapy if my child is the one with a problem?

If your child has a problem like an eating disorder, substance abuse, or other dangerous behavioral or emotional issues, a lot of people will suggest that you, the parent, get therapy. This can be really annoying. After all, aren’t they the one with the problem? Your only problem is that your kid is a nightmare! Otherwise, everything’s fine! Sound familiar? …

What to do about your child's anxiety about food and eating

What to do about your child’s anxiety about food and eating

Having anxiety about food and eating shows up in many eating disorders, especially anorexia and orthorexia. If your child has an eating disorder, it’s very likely they are struggling with a lot of anxiety around food and eating. It’s really frustrating to watch a child refuse to eat and have complete meltdowns over meals. This is advanced parenting, but you …