How to protect your daughter from diet culture and fatphobia

How to protect your daughter from diet culture and fatphobia

If you have a daughter, then you can and should protect her from fatphobia and diet culture. While this isn’t one of the things most of us think about when we have a child, it has become critically important as body hate, disordered eating, and eating disorders are on the rise.  Women in our society are constantly told to control …

What are eating disorders anyway?

What are eating disorders anyway?

Eating disorder definitions are typically clinical and boring, but the truth is that eating disorders are complex and multi-layered. The people who develop eating disorders are worthy of so much compassion and love. I hope this article brings some color to the conversation and helps you understand eating disorders more clearly. I’m sharing all my knowledge of decades living with …

Changing family traditions when there’s an eating disorder

Changing family traditions when there’s an eating disorder

This is an interview in which Ginny Jones, founder of More-Love.org, shares her thoughts on how families can cope with family traditions when there’s an eating disorder in the family. 1. Why might the winter holidays be particularly difficult for individuals affected by eating disorders? What types of challenges might arise in the next few months? I think the biggest …

A Christmas letter to family about body positivity

A holiday letter to family about body positivity

If you have adopted body positivity this year, it may help to send a letter to your family to share your new lifestyle in advance of any holiday gatherings. Many families participate in diet and fitness conversations and actively and passively promote the “ideal body.” They may perpetuate the myth that weight can and should be controlled through restrictive eating …

6 tips to handle holidays with an eating disorder

6 tips to handle holidays with an eating disorder

The holidays are typically a stressful time, and it can be even harder to handle with an eating disorder. It could seem like a total disaster, or you could look at this as an opportunity to do things differently. Our kids thrive in a close and connected family. And isn’t that what the holidays are supposed to be about? These …

Why I think eating disorder treatment often doesn’t work

Why I think eating disorder treatment often doesn’t work

Many parents who have a child with an eating disorder face years of treatment that doesn’t seem to work. It’s frustrating to try so hard and spend so much money and energy working against an eating disorder that won’t budge. So what’s missing? Why is this so common? First, of course, eating disorder treatment works for many people. But it’s …

How to use emotional regulation to help your child who has an eating disorder

How emotional regulation can help with an eating disorder (and what you can do)

A child who has an eating disorder will benefit from emotional regulation skills, and parents can help by learning co-regulation techniques. When we co-regulate with our kids, they learn to do it for themselves. In fact, we are in the best possible position to improve our kids’ capacity for emotional regulation. Often when we learn a child has an eating …

A letter to family about your child's anorexia (what to say/what not to say)

A letter to family about your child’s anorexia (what to say/what not to say)

When you have a child with anorexia, it may be necessary to teach family members about the eating disorder and explain what to say and what not to say, and a letter can work well for this. This is especially true if your child’s eating disorder is visible. While there are many eating disorders that are invisible, low-weight anorexia can …

How to talk about food and body issues with your child

How to talk about food and body issues with your child

Talking about food and body issues can seem loaded. Many parents simply don’t know what to say so they avoid saying anything. Other parents feel uncomfortable with the subject and want to change their kids’ minds about food and body issues as quickly as possible. This can leave the child feel unconnected and unheard. So what is the solution? How …

Why power struggles over clothes aren't worth it

You’re wearing that?!

How to avoid power struggles over clothes Getting dressed should not be a battleground, and most of the time you don’t need to get into power struggles about clothes. Power struggles over clothes can result in the following side effects for our kids: Low self-worth Poor sense of self Rebellion Underdeveloped autonomy Damaged parent-child relationship Mental health issues, including eating …

How to talk about your child's eating disorder

How to talk about your child’s eating disorder

When your child has an eating disorder you need to talk about it. I know it can be hard to do this. Most of us are afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing. But it’s important to know that almost anything is better than not talking about it. When we don’t talk about eating disorders we leave our child …

eating disorder drinking problem

When your child has an eating disorder and a drinking problem

Many parents find themselves at the crossroads of an eating disorder and a drinking problem. The disorders are linked and often seen together. So how can a parent help? Understand why your child has an eating disorder and a drinking problem Learn the steps to recovery Support your child’s recovery Many people who have eating disorders also have a problem …

5 ways to help a perfectionist who has an eating disorder

5 ways to help a perfectionist who has an eating disorder

What can you do if you love a perfectionist who has an eating disorder? Luckily, there’s a lot you can do! First, let’s take a look at some facts: Perfectionism is both a risk factor for and commonly co-occurs with eating disorders. Many people who have an eating disorder also have perfectionism. And perfectionism is damaging to almost every aspect …

Social media filters are ruining kids' body image

Social media filters are ruining kids’ body image

Social media filters are impacting our kids’ body image, and luckily there’s something parents can do to help. We’ve got to have “the talk” with our kids about social media, and we’ve got to do it soon.   We’ve entered a deeply fraught period in which our kids are seeking body modification – surgical, fitness, and food – in pursuit …

9 ways to accidentally sabotage your kids' relationship with food

9 ways to accidentally sabotage your kids’ relationship with food

And 1 way to raise a child who is free from food issues If you want to raise a child who is free from food issues, then it’s time to stop sabotaging their relationship with food. Eating disorders are on the rise, and disordered eating is so common that it’s considered normal.  But true health is found when a person …